Petals of a Rose

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The World is ‘Too Much’ – Never Mind ‘Not Enough’

Published February 13, 2015 by lydia999

When I was hit by the frightening realisation that I could not sell my books without being a social media member, I took it on the chin and decided that it could surely not be that bad. How wrong can one be? But my reasons for being overwhelmed are other than you may think.

I was first struck – honestly and heart-fiillingly struck – by the number of amazing people on this planet and the amazing causes to which they give their time and energy selflessly for the ‘better good’. It renewed my waning faith in the good of human nature with which we have supposedly been blessed. I also found that it is easier to avoid contacts on a computer screen than it is in ‘real life’. For someone who is rather ‘people-averse’ this is a good thing. It’s almost as though you can take the goodness of people and put it into a little pot and breath in the sweet aroma and you can leave out the bad bits of people which you don’t want to allow inside the pot. How wonderful this all sounds but………it’s all just too much!

When you can literally connect with a world of people who are sharing their ‘insides’ it’s an overwhelming reality. These people, who in another universe would never divulge their need for love, adventure, change, forbidden desires …… something different. I find it so strange that we are mostly incapable of doing this in person, face to face, but are happy to share so much with an invisible being. How many of us would admit to the silliness/laughter/mischief which we would love to be part of – it’s just not the done thing.

And so it is all much more than we introverted, thought-driven people can cope with. The further that you dive into the whirlpool of the web, the more than you seek and feed on other people’s goodness, the more it drags you in and then one day you realise that you haven’t time for a life because your life IS the web.

I don’t know if you saw the brilliant video ‘look up’  It is so true – we spend so much time doing/thinking/talking/texting/emailing/reading/game-playing/watching that our life passes us by and the beauty of the world and its lessons and peace go by unnoticed.

As William Henry Davies said;-

‘What is this life if, full of care, we have no time to stand and stare’.

What more is there to say 🙂 Blessings and wishing you a wonderful weekend however you may choose to spend it 🙂


‘Petals of a Rose’ FREE download from tomorrow until Sunday!!

Published February 4, 2015 by lydia999
Guess what?! My e-book ‘Petals of a Rose’ will be available for FREE download as of tomorrow. This will be available from Amazon and will be for a limited time only – so make sure you share with your friends & family (it’s too good to miss!)  Thanks 🙂 #hermitmedia#booklovers #bookworms #ilovereading#bookshelves #aspiringauthors#bookstagram #ilovewriting

Dryathlon for Cancer Research – YEY!! I did it :)

Published February 2, 2015 by lydia999

YEY!! I did it 🙂
Thank you so much to those people who sponsored me. Thank you for having faith in me – it was your faith as much as the desire to help raise money that kept me on the straight and narrow – plus a little help from my husband and daughter 🙂 It has been a most enlightening experience. Many thanks to @JustGiving – their email support has been brilliant and made such a difference. I felt ‘connected’ to the other people doing the same thing. Again, an interesting concept as being part of a ‘team’ in reality is not one of my favourite things, but being part of a ‘virtual’ team was very uplifting.

Anyway, well done to everyone who has succeeded – indeed well done to anyone who has tried. I think that this is about the tenth year that I’ve tried a dry January and this is the first time that I’ve succeeded, so don’t give up for next year 🙂

Dryathlon for Cancer Research – Only Three Days To Go

Published January 28, 2015 by lydia999

Hello everyone

Only three more days and I will have completed my challenge. So what have I learnt during my abstinence?

  • I can survive without alcohol
  • I can have a bad day without NEEDING alcohol (not sure how well this would stand without medication!)
  • I haven’t died because I haven’t had alcohol
  • I’ve lost weight!
  • I can talk to people without needing to have a drink first
  • I can go out socially and not drink without wanting to crawl into a corner
  • I CAN still focus on a goal and achieve it
  • Becks Blue is brilliant!
  • Now my time is almost up, I’m not actually that bothered about having a drink
  • But I AM happy that I will again have a choice
  • No hangovers – although my head has hurt just as much due to lack of alcohol!
  • People who want a cuppa in the evening instead of a glass of wine are not deviant
  • You don’t have to be boring just because you don’t drink – although not drinking doesn’t stop you being boring 🙂
  • My family and friends have supported me and are pleased with me for sticking at it so I feel……..good

Well, there is a tidy list of positives – the negatives? I can’t think of any, except that my brain doesn’t work as well on its own 🙂

Yet if I had been asked to stop drinking for a month just for me – which has been the case on several occasions (sorry doctor!) – I would have been most uncooperative and never achieved it.

It just goes to show that if we do things for someone else it is a major incentive. I wanted to raise some money to help, and I also didn’t want to let down the people who had faith in me and sponsored me.

There are still three days left to sponsor me so please don’t feel left out 🙂 Hopefully I can get back to my next novel following on from ‘Petals of a Rose’. There are people watching and waiting so that they can find out what happens to Rose, so I don’t want to tease them 🙂

Hope you’re having a great week. Bye for now 🙂

Dryathlon – Almost there

Published January 22, 2015 by lydia999

I can’t believe that I am almost there! This is the longest that I have been without some light alcohol relief for……….a long time 🙂 I really wanted to achieve this small goal because this is absolutely nothing compared to the continual small goals which cancer sufferers have to endure each and every day. This is all that I can do to help raise some money for Cancer Research’s work to continue. I can’t run marathons (I can’t run at all without the risk of a heart-attack!) so I think this is a brilliant, non-physical way for everyone to be able to take part. Obviously there are people who don’t drink but they seem to be giving up something else instead, like chocolate or sweets. So there is really no excuse. Everyone can do something to feel useful and help, whether it be for cancer or  for one of the many, many other worthwhile causes. Maybe we should have something each month – Dry January, Free from chocolate February, No sweets November 🙂

I know that there are lots of people out there doing so much good work and fund-raising who don’t need a prod to help, but there are lots of people like me who need a little shove.

Unfortunately, the creative juices would seem to be directly linked to my lack of alcohol and have dried up the same as me 🙂 Ernest Hemingway may have had a point,

So to those merry (or not so merry!) souls who have one more week to go I wish you ‘happy abstaining‘.



Published January 11, 2015 by lydia999

Hi there

Well, I have survived so far. 11 days…….can feel like a year. The last time that I went for this long without a little tipple of wine was when I went to the Mayr Clinic in Austria. My sister dragged me there and told me it would be good for me. After 4 days of starvation I was ready to jump in the lake, but then something wonderful happened – I began to feel well. A few days later when it was time to go home I didn’t want to go! I am beginning to appreciate that experience again – especially since I weigh less now than I have weighed in…..let’s just say a long time.

So not only am I helping to raise money for cancer research, I am also applying some of the lifestyle changes which Julie Romani talks about in her book ‘It’s All About Cancer’ and am certainly feeling the benefits.

Thanks for your support 🙂


Published January 4, 2015 by lydia999

Firstly I would like to wish each and every one a Happy New Year and, as Miss World would say, let’s pray for World Peace 🙂 I never really understood the point of saying that until I watched ‘Miss Congeniality’ and then it all made sense.

And yet another year bites the dust. How quickly they seem to fly by. But what an amazing year it has been for me. I have seen the dream of holding my first book in print. It has been such a roller-coaster experience for the last ten years or so. I was surprised by the way that the characters took on a life of their own and I found myself asking ‘but would she really do that’ when I wanted to guide the story one way but they wanted it to go somewhere else. I waited nervously for the first people to read ‘Petals of a Rose’ and was so relieved when each piece of feedback filtered back saying that they really enjoyed it/when is the next one coming out!

I recently watched ‘The Hours’ for the umpteenth time and remember feeling strangely comforted by the fact that Virginia Woolf lived in two worlds because I think that anyone who writes much will know just how that feels and how disorientating it can sometimes be. But I wouldn’t change this for the world. How exciting to be able to make decisions in two lives – one real and one imaginary.

It’s something that can’t be taught – you’re sort of born with the desire to delve into these dark/curious places, snoop into the secret lives of these paper people and slip them into the world – not necessarily born with the talent to write, but the desire can nurture the talent.

I don’t want to forget that for many, many people each and every year is a hard year, but when the end of the tunnel appears and the hurt, pain and worry go away – which will always come – it is such a wonderful feeling and my aim is to reach as many people as I can to help them see the light at the end of the tunnel. I hope that you’ll join me.

Thanks for listening 🙂