Only three more days and I will have completed my challenge. So what have I learnt during my abstinence?
- I can survive without alcohol
- I can have a bad day without NEEDING alcohol (not sure how well this would stand without medication!)
- I haven’t died because I haven’t had alcohol
- I’ve lost weight!
- I can talk to people without needing to have a drink first
- I can go out socially and not drink without wanting to crawl into a corner
- I CAN still focus on a goal and achieve it
- Becks Blue is brilliant!
- Now my time is almost up, I’m not actually that bothered about having a drink
- But I AM happy that I will again have a choice
- No hangovers – although my head has hurt just as much due to lack of alcohol!
- People who want a cuppa in the evening instead of a glass of wine are not deviant
- You don’t have to be boring just because you don’t drink – although not drinking doesn’t stop you being boring 🙂
- My family and friends have supported me and are pleased with me for sticking at it so I feel……..good
Well, there is a tidy list of positives – the negatives? I can’t think of any, except that my brain doesn’t work as well on its own 🙂
Yet if I had been asked to stop drinking for a month just for me – which has been the case on several occasions (sorry doctor!) – I would have been most uncooperative and never achieved it.
It just goes to show that if we do things for someone else it is a major incentive. I wanted to raise some money to help, and I also didn’t want to let down the people who had faith in me and sponsored me.
There are still three days left to sponsor me so please don’t feel left out 🙂 Hopefully I can get back to my next novel following on from ‘Petals of a Rose’. There are people watching and waiting so that they can find out what happens to Rose, so I don’t want to tease them 🙂
Hope you’re having a great week. Bye for now 🙂
I can’t believe that I am almost there! This is the longest that I have been without some light alcohol relief for……….a long time 🙂 I really wanted to achieve this small goal because this is absolutely nothing compared to the continual small goals which cancer sufferers have to endure each and every day. This is all that I can do to help raise some money for Cancer Research’s work to continue. I can’t run marathons (I can’t run at all without the risk of a heart-attack!) so I think this is a brilliant, non-physical way for everyone to be able to take part. Obviously there are people who don’t drink but they seem to be giving up something else instead, like chocolate or sweets. So there is really no excuse. Everyone can do something to feel useful and help, whether it be for cancer or for one of the many, many other worthwhile causes. Maybe we should have something each month – Dry January, Free from chocolate February, No sweets November 🙂
I know that there are lots of people out there doing so much good work and fund-raising who don’t need a prod to help, but there are lots of people like me who need a little shove.
Unfortunately, the creative juices would seem to be directly linked to my lack of alcohol and have dried up the same as me 🙂 Ernest Hemingway may have had a point,
So to those merry (or not so merry!) souls who have one more week to go I wish you ‘happy abstaining‘.
Firstly I would like to wish each and every one a Happy New Year and, as Miss World would say, let’s pray for World Peace 🙂 I never really understood the point of saying that until I watched ‘Miss Congeniality’ and then it all made sense.
And yet another year bites the dust. How quickly they seem to fly by. But what an amazing year it has been for me. I have seen the dream of holding my first book in print. It has been such a roller-coaster experience for the last ten years or so. I was surprised by the way that the characters took on a life of their own and I found myself asking ‘but would she really do that’ when I wanted to guide the story one way but they wanted it to go somewhere else. I waited nervously for the first people to read ‘Petals of a Rose’ and was so relieved when each piece of feedback filtered back saying that they really enjoyed it/when is the next one coming out!
I recently watched ‘The Hours’ for the umpteenth time and remember feeling strangely comforted by the fact that Virginia Woolf lived in two worlds because I think that anyone who writes much will know just how that feels and how disorientating it can sometimes be. But I wouldn’t change this for the world. How exciting to be able to make decisions in two lives – one real and one imaginary.
It’s something that can’t be taught – you’re sort of born with the desire to delve into these dark/curious places, snoop into the secret lives of these paper people and slip them into the world – not necessarily born with the talent to write, but the desire can nurture the talent.
I don’t want to forget that for many, many people each and every year is a hard year, but when the end of the tunnel appears and the hurt, pain and worry go away – which will always come – it is such a wonderful feeling and my aim is to reach as many people as I can to help them see the light at the end of the tunnel. I hope that you’ll join me.
Thanks for listening 🙂
We are so grateful for two more positive reviews for Lydia Trent’s book Petals of a Rose from Wayne, Bradford and Julie, Leeds.
Have you read ‘Petals of a Rose’ yet? If not, why not give it a try? 🙂
‘Just read the other reviews and I too hope there is a sequel! I was totally intrigued the whole way through and I certainly didn’t predict the ending. A very well written book that I couldn’t put down until I finished it! Well Lydia….hope your penning your next one!
Julie’s words:- Fabulous read!!! Would make a great film 🙂 From the moment I picked it up I could not put it down! I would highly recommend it !!!!
Thanks Wayne and Julie for your support – it is much appreciated
The book is available through the Hermit Media website, Amazon, Waterstones online and other online book stores. Petals of a Rose is also available in Kindle format from Amazon.
There will indeed be a sequel 🙂 Lydia’s story is due out early 2015.
Hi there, yet again I haven’t written anything on here for a while. I apologise but I have a very good reason – I am in the throes of writing my next book. Once I begin the writing process it takes over my life as I become embroiled and lost in my characters and so finding time for anything else is difficult. You ought to see my house – I am collecting dust! I am so pleased that ‘Petals of a Rose’ is getting such wonderful feedback – it makes it all worthwhile just to know that my work is appreciated. My next book follows on with the life of Lydia as an adult and how her life continues to be affected by the patterns learned in childhood.
I haven’t really told you much about myself and why I write have I? So here goes ….
I have lived my whole life as a visitor amongst strangers and have never quite felt at ease in the big, wide world. Because of this I found solace and company in the characters on my pages and watched how they lived their lives. Now that I have no reason to leave the house I rarely do, but this has lots of positives. I can honestly say that for the first time in my life I am happy being able to be in an environment that I love and to be able to earn my living here. I love observing people and their diversities and the good that they can do in the world. Anyway, now that I have ‘spilled the beans’ I can write more about this. It would be good to be able to write something which will cheer other people who live like me – some of them not by choice (actually mine is not by choice but…….. that’s another story).
I think that’s enough for now. I won’t leave it so long next time. Have a great week and treasure your days J
Hi there I thought that you might enjoy a different extract from Petals of a Rose.
Feedback has been extremely positive and readers have consistently said that they could not put the book down which is great to know. The subject matter lends itself to a heartrending read but feedback suggests that the connection with the characters intensifies the experience. Feedback describes the book as ‘a rollercoaster of emotions ride‘.
Extract from Petals of a Rose by Lydia Trent
‘Shut up, you stupid little sod. Shut up!’ The child was thrown face down into the cot. She continued to scream; loud, pleading screams. She managed to roll herself over, her thin body shaking with the exertion of her cries. Her mother paced frantically backwards and forwards across the room, drowning in anger, clenching her fists in a vain effort to control the mounting rage which threatened to overwhelm her. She was forcing herself to stay away from the cot, but the screams were drawing her like a magnet, teasing her with the knowledge that the tormentor lay there. That’s where the cries were and she had to stop them, had to stop them because she couldn’t take it. Her head was going to explode, her guts were going to erupt with this rage unless she let it out, let it out where the screams were.
She strode towards the cot and fiercely grabbed the tiny bundle from within. She held it roughly in front of her in the air and shook it. ‘For God’s sake, bloody shut up. Just stop it, stop it, stop it, stop it!’
The door opened. Alan stared in horror.
The book is available through the Hermit Media website, Amazon, Waterstones online and other online book stores. Petals of a Rose is also available in e-pub and Kindle format on Amazon only.